The Grief Files: Choosing Love and Honor

​Life is about choices. Seems simplistic, right? It is, and you can interpret that in a lot of ways. In terms of relationships, I think it's important to choose how we remember those who've passed on. Believe me, I’ve had plenty of practice. It's crucial for grief survivors to recall and meditate on good memories, happy moments. But beyond that, there's a profound, almost karmic, understanding that our memories form a sacred connection with those who have left us.

Honor in Recollection​

​In a world filled with complexity and conflicts, it's easy to let negativity seep into our memories. But when it comes to remembering our departed loved ones, we are presented with a choice. A choice to honor or to be unkind with our recollections.
 
Choosing to honor those memories is not just about personal healing; it's a way to maintain the dignity and respect that our loved ones deserve. It's dishonorable, in most cases, to be unkind with our recollections. There's a wisdom in our hearts that tells us this, a kind of karmic movement that resonates with our very soul.

Embrace the Positive

​By focusing on the joy, love, and warmth that our memories hold, we're not ignoring the pain or pretending everything is fine. We are making a deliberate choice to celebrate the life and essence of those who have shaped us. This conscious act helps us form a sacred bond, a connection that transcends the boundaries of life and death.

Cherish the Connection

​The memories we choose to keep alive influence how we continue to feel, grow, and connect with our loved ones. Their wisdom, their humor, their unique personalities remain with us. Our relationships don't end; they evolve, and it's our responsibility to nurture this evolution with honor and kindness.

​Tips to Focus on Happy Memories

​1. Journaling: Write down the happy memories, the lessons learned, and the love shared. It can be a cathartic experience.
2. Create a Memory Space: Dedicate a place in your home where you keep mementos, photographs, or anything that helps you remember the joyful times.
3. Celebrate Their Life: On special anniversaries or birthdays, gather with friends and family to share stories, laugh, and remember the beautiful moments.

Conclusion

​Life's journey is intertwined with choices. The way we remember those who have left us is not just a personal reflection but a universal connection that resonates with something deeper. There's a karmic wisdom in honoring and cherishing our memories, one that aligns with our human essence. Let's choose to remember with love, with joy, and most importantly, with honor. Sometimes you have to, not just for them but for you as well.